It was during my journey of training, preparations, disappointments, sickness and all the lessons I learned along the way, that it wasn't just about the stage. It's bigger than that. I guessed what's "bigger than the stage"? The lessons you learn of self discovery about yourself, about your new eating lifestyle, to have the discipline to go without things that you didn't believe you could, about the competition you decide to participate in, about the industry and ultimately how you feel about the trainings techniques to receive the body you need to compete and WIN! You will also begin to love the transformation from within, self awareness, self gratitude, strength, confidence, self esteem, happiness and joy......being able to reward yourself for the small and yet huge milestones along the way. Loving yourself gives you a new perspective on life.
There were so many beautiful girls who stuck with it through preparations, made amazing changes in their bodies, and were angry or devastated when they didn’t place or win their first competition. If you’re going to compete, you have really embrace your beauty from within and it will exude outwardly. Loving your body throughout the process, appreciate the progress that you make without becoming fixated on the end goal so much that you don't enjoy or miss the lessons. I had to remember to stop and enjoy my life and the progress I was making.
Sidebar: In another series later I will talk about all the lessons I learned along the way. Keep reading!
”Put in your best effort and learn to appreciate the results you get without worrying about "the rest"! My goal for my first competition was (1) to have the best body possible to present to the judges, (2) hear my number in the first call outs to come back, (3) highest possible aspiration as a first-time competitor in the fitness industry to compete in the night show, lastly but definitely the ultimate goal for me (4) to receive a pro card, {to be able to compete with the Pros}, (5) to compete nationally.
Go in confident, feeling sexy, sassy, classy....see yourself as a winner! Set the stage before getting "on" stage. You will hear critiques from everybody you talk to about fitness, by only listen to your coach and trainer or other credible source.
Competitions are very public and they go viral really quickly. One thing I didn’t know was how competing in to my first competition would change my Google status results forever. When you enter a competition, there are photographers at most shows, in the pit, taking pictures of the competitors . Snapping pictures from every angel and every direction. Always stand with good "posing posture" your pictures just might get on the internet. Especially since the bikini we wear on stage are tiny!☺️ If you are a parent or have a sensitive job (you'll probably want to consider this.) However, to me it's no different than any other pageant picture. I say without judgement "to each it's own". With that said the pictures usually remain on the Internet forever, so "you decide."
While competing will give you a more objective view of the anatomy of the human body, please use discretion when you decide to post progress pictures. Post your pictures wth the perspective of showing positive progress during your journey.
This journey can take you on many different roller coaster rides, however you have to choose wisely which ride you will and absolutely will "not" ride. Stay true to yourself. It’s important to know exactly what you want to get out of competing as you go in. Let me just say, it's not just about the trophy. Now this doesn't mean that your goals won't change as you progress, but overall, as with anything else, you do have a general idea of what you want "overall". The transformation that comes with becoming a bodybuilder is "inside" not just a "physical transformation".
Bodybuilding for me wasn't just about transforming my body, however it what I thought "at first". After about 6 weeks into the training it meant so much more for me. There was another milestone that's I was embarking when I started....yes four months later I was turning 50 years old. So I decided I wanted to look "good" at 50. Many of you (over 50 years of age), know what in talking about. I always "thought" I'd looked pretty good. But when the months of training and my eating lifestyle changed, the months begin going by it wasn't about my looks for me. It's was about the different lessons I learned about myself.
Sidebar: As I embark of this new journey "MyNextChapters", my foundation felt like it was slipping. The stability of my lifestyle was shifting. I didn't understand why I was going through what I was going through. I'd found myself "without a place I can call my own". Yes that's right I was homeless, however j always had a place to stay. I was grateful, and appreciative but it wasn't the same as having my own. I stayed with a friend for a few months then moved into my own place again, only to find myself back in the same boat after 7 months. I just couldn't get my footing and didn't understand why. Life for me was so confusing seeming as I always had it together. So many emotions were going to my mind which affected my self esteem, my faith, my self confidence and my spiritual mental self..
I'm a devoted Christian and God has always been the constant in my life. The scripture that helped my in this 9 month journey to stay focus regardless of the hurdles I had to jump. Psalms 12: 1-8 - In summary: Help! Some days our prayers are short and simple. Help us the "universal" cry. In Psalms 11, David was upset that the foundation was being destroyed. The faithful were disappearing. I felt like David. I didn't and don't understand however I remember Jeremiah 29:11 God's plans for me are to prosper me and to give me a future and a hope, and His end for me to have a future and a hope. However, it's "All" part of the process.
Note: Don't devalue my journey, if you're reading this then your course is not yet done.
There a vast amount of humility, humbleness and gratitude that comes when going through the storm. You don't come out the same as you were before going in. Life is different for you. You have a new perspective, fresh anointing, renewed spirit, clean heart and a battle plan for prayer.
There are a lot of people who take preparations to the extremes (but you can determines what "extreme" means to you). If you've ever been to a show you will agree with me that, many of them look absolutely amazing on stage, however with "extreme" preparations there are certainly trade-offs.
Many of my fellow competitors, have their own ways of "extreme" preparations. Some may even say my preparations were extreme. Some may even say they could not do what we do as competitors to prepare for a show. As I stated before, everyone have different fitness goals. Some of the competitors began depleting carbs for two weeks or more and dehydrate themselves to dangerous levels to get lean for the stage. I never had to "deplete" my carbs, I only had to decrease them. My diet worked very well for me during the preparation. We didn't manipulate it as much as I thought. That's because I dropped fat consistently. During the months of October through December I was able to increase my carbs by 1/4 and January we reduced back to competition dieting.
Now when i say diet, I'm saying my food lifestyle changes. I realize a long time ago that I cannot eat like I did when I was 20. I'm older and wiser.
That’s not the only way to do it. There are thousands of supplements you can take, and variety of ways to combine foods and eliminate certain things from your diet to lean out for a show. I learned most of pre and post workout supplements have some for of sugar and/or sugar alcohol in them which can cause the body to hold on to water/fluids. However, if you completely deplete all your water/fluids from your diet "too soon" you may began to experience cramps, dehydration and dizziness. It's also unhealthy. Most coaches will recommend one or more supplements to compliment your training, assist with your dieting towards reaching your goal. If you have any part–pre-existing medical conditions –most of these supplements won’t hurt you. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t clear your protocol with a doctor before you start taking a ton of pills in the name of competition preparation.
On the other end of the spectrum, there may be some alternative methods of supplement that may not be so natural, to help prepare for competition. I decided early on in the process that I would rather prepare for my competition by working hard and keep my body natural. However, it's a personal choice everyone has to make.
I've always learned that's if I make a decision right off the bat, I decided not to waiver....I have to be able to live with that decision. There are going to be times when preparations gets challenging. You may feel like you're not dropping body-fat the way you desire (because you're not "just" losing weight) or your body isn't changing enough or you don't have energy to make it through your workout...whatever emotional moment attack you may have...You will have many opportunities to make short cuts. If you know that you’re going to say “no” if and when that time comes, it’s simpler to stay true to yourself even when times are hard. I remember why I started this journey, that this all starts with a focus, commitment and perseverance on presenting your best body, being fit, most importantly, being healthy. I know that I'm not just representing myself. Whereas being amongst an elite group of women who choose to body build, someone is "always" watching me.
Sidebar: I didn't know my purpose when I began this journey, but as I started I knew I had a place in this industry. There's someone considering doing something "bigger than her, perhaps she dreams of being part of something bigger than her or doing something bigger Han her". She's reached her limits of what she can do to make this dream come true. Like me, she "constantly" seeks Help from above. When she's gone beyond her power, she knows He's her source. My encouragement to you is "keep reaching, keep aspiring....Dreams do come true, still." I "now" know my purpose in the body building industry.
If you’re considering taking unregulated, unnatural supplements in pursuit of that end, you may want to reconsider why you’re doing this in the first place. If winning is all that matters, there are much easier things to win. There is an old cliche' that's goes "winning isn't everything". Well, you have to determine and perhaps discover what winning means to you. Yes winning is important to me, however I won't stop if I don't win, first time around. There will be automatic sacrifices you'll make in "becoming a bodybuilder" as I discovered early on...as I also stated before you have to decide which sacrifices you can live with and those which you can live without.
Resist the urge to tear yourself apart when you see someone else professing faster than you think you're progressing. The process of preparing for a competition can be a rollercoaster. Although I’m very happy with the progress I’ve made, I had many days where I wasn’t getting the kind of feedback I was expecting on the scale, or from my trainer. There were times I didn’t think I was strong enough, lean enough, or had enough proportion. I had to force myself to look for the positive in my body and myself many times during the process. It is all too easy to focus on the negative and ignore the positive. Even when I didn't feel as though my trainer wasn't giving me the feedback that I desired, I could get into my head. I myself knew what I "desired" to look like and knew what work I "needed" to put in. However, looking back at my progress made me still proud of the successful progress is made. Remember, I said earlier, it's the small victories that matter, along the way. Taking progress pictures helps with me with this; as you watch your body shape up from week to week you’ll notice the improvements–like, “wow, my trouble spots are shaping up nicely” instead of “ugh, my legs still don’t look perfect.” Remember that nobody ever feels perfect, and you are no exception! Resist the urge to compare your body to other women in the gym or on stage. You have your own masterpiece that you can sculpt into whatever look you desire. There's also lots of products t out there that can help. If you are satisfied with nothing short of perfection, you will always be disappointed. Learn to appreciate progress and love yourself for the hard work you’ve put in so that you can get out of the process what you put in.
Have fun at the show! Even with all the anxious nerves before going on stage. Remember , this is part of why you begin this journey. Having friends with common interests is a great source of motivation and inspiration as you go through the prep process. I didn't have any friends that I worked out with at first, but I do have some now that I can work out "like a beast", the cool thing about it they can too! And while you may not know many people before the show, the show itself is a great time to meet a lot of friends who have similar goals and aspirations as you! I did meet several people I will keep up with their journey to see how far it takes them.
Going backstage with a competitive or unfriendly attitude will just make your long day longer, and you’ll miss out on the opportunity to meet great people who can inspire you in the future. I saw a lot of beautiful women, different nationalities, all whom had different goals. Some looked nervous and some whom looked like they done it before! I didn't know why I looked like. I'd kept alert so that i wouldn't miss any direction. However I didn't know how to get backstage (because the door I was to use to go back stage said "FIRE EXIT"), so of course I didn't open it. So another contestant how go back stage, she said thorough this door (the FIRE EXIT door). I said no, the alarm was going to go off. She opened it and said it's okay. Needlessly to say, I almost missed my first Competition because i was late. Then I finally get back stage, the coordinators scolded me. I was already nervous and now I'm being scold. I said "okay already" I didn't know how to get to the back! It was like organized chaos. It's wasn't a very big show. The first thing I do when I get backstage is look for my first friend. Having someone to communicate with, to share prep strategies with, to complain about your diet with, gives you a sense of camaraderie that you probably missed when you were explaining to your friends and family for the tenth time why you were eating broiled chicken breast with 1/2 cup brown rice out of a plastic container again for the 3rd time already.
I actually did meet a young lady named Nikki who I ended up competing with in the Masters Bikini Overall Category. Nikki and I will remain in constant contact as we develop a relationship.
Practice your posing and work it on stage, too! Looking self-conscious (even if you feel it!) doesn’t help at all, once you've decided to go out there, own it, you’re going to love the experience. It’s exhilarating to be up on stage, showing off your hard work, and your well practiced posing, you’re going to feel much more comfortable out there. I did embrace the stage, I was comfortable and confident in my body. Because I was late getting back stage and had to immediately line up to go out. I had to calm down quick. I started praying inwardly because the back stage coordinators were upset, it annoyed me, so I had to give my self a quick pep talk. Yes they told us to be back stage, but no direction as to how to get back stage.
So, my advice to you, If first time competing ask someone early or before time if you have any questions. You're already anxious and last thing you need if someone's attitude of authority to negatively affect your mood. Shake it off. There's a list posted somewhere leading backstage so that you may know the order of the show. I wasn't told that and wasn't familiar with process, so I accidentally stumbled upon it. The show facilitators, coordinators or volunteers offer very little information. Look for it or ask somewhere it is. Also ladies, you may be advised to not wear deodorant because it could interfere with the lighting on stage and appear to be green under your arm where you've been spray tanned. Well needless to say I didn't get the memo. No, it didn't change the appearance of my tan, but because of the tight area we were in backstage it was pretty "raw". But then again I had no reason to show my arm pit. Also, before I forget, bring your food. The competition don't provide food so you will still prepare for that day like you've always prepared in packing your lunch. I also brought water. I'm so accustom to having my food and competition day wasn't no exception.
Once you come off stage, you can solicit feedback from the judges–respectfully!–this will really help if you want to compete again. I didn't do that, It’s amazing how different we look from the judges’ perspective! Though I did win First Place Masters 50+ 😍👍🏽💪🏾, I also competed in Novice Bikini and I didn't place. (I later learned that my body was being compared to the Novice winner. Though I had more muscle than her, her core was a bit tighter). I was a bit disappointed, but I won't allow that moment In time to stop me. I also learned a lot of the girls for connected to the show in some way or another, being it prior competitions, knowing affiliates of the show or organization. I wasn't bothered because I came to compete and win "fairly" and "I did".
However, what I will do is get back into the gym, do what I need to do to place First. I decided not to compete in the next 6 weeks show. But I will be back in September competing with the same organization with an even better body. Also my next competition i will also take advantage "again" of the crossover opportunity. Crossover means I can sign up for more Han competition category. This opportunity will allow me to maximize my chances to receiving a pro card. This is my "purpose" in competition, you ultimately may have a different goal.
But just know that looking good on stage isn’t the be-all, end-all of competing, eating clean and getting fit. When I see the girls who beat me in competitions once they put on their street clothes, I am always surprised that we all look virtually indistinguishable from each other. Remember, that by the time you get on the stage to compete, you have accomplished something that most people would never ever consider doing. Be proud of what you've accomplished thus far. You are in fantastic shape, (perhaps the best shape you've been in, in your life), "I am", and have come a long way. You deserve to pat yourself on the back a little bit!
Now that you've finished the competition, now you've got to avoid the post-competition rebound. If you stick faithfully to your diet, you probably won’t have had many treat meals in the months leading up to your show. You will lie awake at night dreaming of pizza, beer, nachos, cupcakes, cookies, chips and other yummy “cheats.” You will spend hours strategizing your post-show meal. You can have a cheat meal after the show, maybe have a cheat breakfast the next day or maybe a lunch. I did. I also had a couple of cookies, but because I'd been eating so clean for such an extended period of time, it gave me diarrhea. And loosen up on your diet once your show is over, gradually, but not too much, too fast. The super restrictive dieting can be a bit crazy.
So don’t fall completely off the wagon. After my first show, I ate a few extra carbs and craved sugar. I weighed myself after a week and gained 3 pounds. Well because I knew we were changing my meal plan to that similar to carb cycling, I wanted to get the three pounds immediately, and I did. I got back to my stage weight. So even though my weight went back down my body fat went up by 2%. I was okay with that. I had worked so hard to prepare for my competition, and I “rewarded” myself for finishing. Allow yourself to settle in to the great feeling of eating healthy food most of the time, and allow that to pull you through the first few days after the show so you can continue eating clean, at least until you decide "what's next". ****Many competitors add thirty or more pounds to their frames in the “off season,” which means that they are in a binge/starve cycle all year long. That can't be healthy. Find peace, and find stability. It makes life much more enjoyable.
Sidebar: It's a mental game you play with yourself so that you sabotage your own progress, by over indulging in sugary, non-valuable nutritional foods (garbage). Each week I expect to look better and better. I do expect to see constant change in my body and my diet plays a huge part. I know that personally I'd like to see some even greater results in transforming my body to an even better package. So, I know I can't have everything I see. I make sacrifices and adjustments everyday. I literally have to remind myself of my future goals and aspirations. Well, though I hadn't quite made up my mind right after my first competition I knew I could just blow my diet completely. Besides who wants to go that far back....not me. I'd work too hard. So I'd like to at least savor the body for years to come.
Apply all the lessons you’ve learned along the way, to your life. Don’t let the entire competition process go out the window once you’re done, even if you decide never to do another show again. Sit down and write out a list of things you learned about yourself–physically and otherwise–that you didn’t know going in to the competition. Think about how your body responded to certain types of food (like whether you felt more full eating chicken breasts vs. egg whites vs. whey powder). Think about what type of training worked best (maybe fasted-state cardio isn’t for you). When were your energy levels up? And when were they down? When did you feel the best and the worst?
You're no longer practicing healthy eating but you're creating a lifestyle for yourself that include overall balance hat includes the benefit of healthy habits and exercise. That you now love. By continuing what you’ve learned in preparing for your competition as a normal way of life will serve you well and make the process worthwhile. Read over your list if you’re ever feeling down and think about how much you’ve changed, how much you've grown. Every competitor goes through a metamorphosis of some sort that’s separate them from the obvious physical transformation that contest prep brings. You’ll probably find that you’re more mature, better at resisting temptation, more appreciative of the sweet things in life (literally and otherwise), and more confident and self-assured about more than just the way that you look. I know that all these things are true for me since I’ve started competing, and the process continues on the longer (and harder) you train.
Look forward to sharing after deciding what's next.
Sunday, May 29, 2016
Tuesday, April 12, 2016
Fabulous Fun Fit at 50 "My Journey Becoming a Bodybuilder" Pt. 2
Competing "can get expensive." Something you were probably wondering all along. Coaches can cost $300.00-600.00 or more a month. A single session with a personal trainer can range from $40.00 - $100.00 or more. A semi-custom suit starts around $250.00 (for each piece separate). The more expensive competition bikini suits can go up in the thousands. Your tan for the show will cost about $45.00 a session or package about $150.00. If you choose to have your hair, lashes and make-up done professionally that’s will be another $300.00. Shoes are about $50.00 -$75.00. You may want to do a bikini wax approximately $85.00, Then you’ll need Bikini Bite, jewelry, extra swimsuit, muscle sheen, snacks, cover-up casual two piece outfit, and a variety of other products to help you get ready.
Posing coaching is a good idea, but they can range from $65.00 - $95.00 per hour. However, if posing in a group, it could be less expensive. Not really sure, because I did it one on one.
I had my routine already in mind that I'd already been practicing. So meeting with one coach for the first time, she gave me a few pointers. With that said, choose your coach wisely. They don't have to believe in you,.....you do!
Sidebar: I said I would be authentic, so I must share my posing experience with one particular coach. I'm not going to give names or too much details, because I told myself I wouldn't speak on "that" session again. My experience wasn't good at all. I believe because I only purchase one session with this coach, she wasn't interested in helping me. Her attitude was horrible and she was very critical. I was really getting annoyed, angry and forcing myself to get thru the hour. I had gotten to the point, that 35 minutes into the session "I asked how much longer do I have?" I also began taking off my shoes. I wasn't upset about the money I'd thrown away, so much as that I'd wasted my valuable time. I could have been doing cardio or something. Needless to say I would not use her services or speak of her again.
I learned latter that most coaches want you to start posing with them 8 weeks out, perhaps meeting once a week until the show. Well I'd been practicing for about 12-16 weeks prior with another coaching advisor that advise me very well. I learned a lot from everyone that I interacted whether it was good, bad or ugly.
Some people i learn that I may want to continue doing business with, then others I may not.
Then you have Supplements, which are not cheap. Depending upon how many times a day you consume and the brand you choose will determine how many times you need to replace, can run from $160.00 to about $300.00 a month. There's also the deep tissue body sculpting massages. These massages aide in helping muscles "pop". When I say pop I mean some areas of my body may need extra manipulation to enhance the work that I'd already done over the past months. So my Massage therapist got into to areas and really stirred up the blood to continue to push my muscles to make them become even more separated. It's was an instant gratification. I was able to get a massage every week until the week of the show. I choose an hour massage because it was rewarding, yet very intense. But I loved the way I look. I could immediately see the sculpting results. It's worth the $60.00 to $85.00 and hour. Pedicure and nails $25.00 are also necessary, just because they feel good. I hadn't had nails in years and decided I would go all the way. It's not a necessary though. I also found a product at HEB just my own personal touch to Ginger and Clay detox body wash $6.00, my body three to four times a week. I'm talking about detoxing my skin to make it even more smooth and glowing. After using the detox foaming body wash two to three time, using a loafer $5.00 (or you can a brush) I then use a body scrub $5.00 (also from HEB), exfoliated twice, then I was done. Competing is definitely a luxury....with many small victories (that you shouldn't discount) along the way and huge rewards at the end.
You have to also consider your food. Choosing to eat as the lifestyle of a bodybuilder eats, is important. I wouldn't say eating is expensive, however it can be depending upon what you choose to eat and the type of person you are when it comes to food and having a variety. I'm kept my eating pretty simple. You're taking your food and low sodium ozarka water with you at all times. You can't take the risk of eating out and falling off your diet. I never liked miscalculating my time that I would be at work and didn't bring enough food. That's a huge deal, because you may not have the opportunity (or extra money) to stop and purchase something within your diet. My diet consisted of lots and lots of egg white, it's the purest form of protein so I ate it the most. I also ate chicken, fish (once a week), and beef (once a week). Earlier I talked about me choosing to have a Nutritionist/Coach on my team. He helped me to stay focused on the goal. Knowing I was being held accountable gave me the motivation to work that much harder.
The reason I choose to keep my Coach because as the journey got long and lengthy, he helped me to focused other things I had going on, which steered me to continue my journey with zeal, tenacity and motivation. He commended me for my efforts and applauded my consistent progress. He didn't know that I was feeling overwhelmed, however whenever I went to see him, the lesson for the day inspired me to keep going. Stay focused. I'm on the right track....it's all a part of the process. I regained my footing, remembered to be patient with myself, keep a great attitude and stay in the fight. I think I said this before, but it's not about the journey, it's about the lessons along the way!
There are ways to reduce your expenses. There are some competition apparel companies that will rent suits and many competitors sell their old suits. I heard some of them only wear their suits once, sell the old one and get them a new one. If you build a network, you’ll be able to find a suit at a great price, or wear one off the rack. If you have friends who are personal trainers or have nutrition or competition backgrounds, they can help you come up with a nutrition plan and evaluate your progress pictures. Progress pictures are pictures I took every two to three weeks to see my progress of my body. I was able see where I needed the most work, at that time. I also used the pictures to build my portfolio along my journey.
Distance coaching can be a great idea, too. I didn't have to do this but it is a viable option. You don’t need to go with the flashiest local coach whose girls show up at every competition in matching track suit jackets! You can also do your own tan, hair, and makeup, or seek out less expensive tanning options (like the stand-up tanning machines at many tanning salons; if you do multiple layers of these tans, you can get as dark as the more expensive competition tanning companies can get you). Because I'm already dark, I began early on using sensitive skin exfoliant on a daily basis, Hawaiian dark tanning oil and bronzer to keep my skin nourished, moisturized, supple and make sure I have a natural glow. I also used Tan Physics ($80.00 and tons of cocoa butter. I get a lot of compliments on my skin, when I wear my arms and legs out.
Sidebar: 12 weeks out from competing, I develop a cough that grew worse as the cold days came and went from day to day. I work teaching classes and training and still training for the competition. By the Saturday I've taught and trained my body 30 times. As my body fat was decreasing I stayed cold natured. I didn't best to stay dry and keep my core temperature regulated til I got home for the evening. The Houston weather showed me no mercy. I sweat a lot so that didn't make it any better. I would try to make sure I'd dry off and bundle up but somehow the cough only grew worse. On the Sunday morning, that following week, I woke up with huge knot on the front of throat (the size of a large egg). I was so upset and a bit scared at first. Then I thought about it and calmed down. I'd not been sick in years or had anything seriously wrong either.
I began some home remedies to see if I could do something to make it go down. I didn't know what it was, though I thought j could treat it. I started drinking lemon and honey water. I even took a teaspoon of honey raw (yuk, hate the stuff),'that didn't work. So by Tuesday morning it still had not budge I thought better go get it checked out. I ended up going to the emergency room, that took forever, for them to look at it, do an ultra sound, and order me to see my primary physician. By now it's was at 2am. I still had to go to work the next morning and teach. Because it was cold (February Winter months) for two weeks a wore a variety of scarves to cover my neck, so that I would be asked a thousand questions about my neck. I was able to schedule an appointment and get in to see my primary physician within the next five days. Seemed like it was he longest five days of my life. I prayed and keep a positive spirit.
I'm a pretty private person I only told 7 of my closest friends, only asking them to agree with me in prayer for my divine healing.
{Prayer text to family and friends: Good morning Friends and Warriors, over the last couple of days I've had a health challenge (with a cold and very sore throat), by Sunday morning I saw where the enemy is attacking my throat with some sort of (growth in that area.) Yesterday I decided it was necessary to go to the emergency room to get clarity on what's actually happening in my body. They weren't able to distinguish exactly what it is and referred me to a specialist. My request: though I truly understand the power of a praying woman (and man) and regardless of this obstacle, I know my covenant right as a believer. Please lift me up over the next seven day and agree for the manifested healing in my body. Thank you so much and I'll be praying for you as well. Love you and God bless!!! 🙏🏽}
Before it got in to see my primary physician, I was able to get an emergency appointment with my Nutrition/Coach to see if this was something he'd seen before? Perhaps, another up and coming bodybuilder had a similar situation and he could give me some insight. Well, unfortunately it was something he'd not seen. He too was concerned, yet sympathetic and compassionate. I was hopeful. He did have a few suggestions of some thyroid test that I could ask my physician to run to see if that would be my resolve. At first I was hesitant about asking, because I didn't know how she would respond. However, she did agree that it was okay to run those test along with several others. We ran each test twice over a period of six weeks, for accuracy. Yes I still had to work and train and follow my diet. I couldn't have a pity party, sick days or days off from life. About two weeks later the lump began to dissipate, my voice came back and all the test came back good. All my numbers, levels, glands and overall health came back great. There no evidence of anything in the test, blood work, X-rays, ct scan, ultra sound or mri of any abnormalities. Of course I was gratefully pleased. I still ended up taking antibiotics (I prefer natural) to treat the upper respiratory infection I'd developed over this period. All and all it was a scare but but I didn't get in my head about it.
Posing coaching is a good idea, but they can range from $65.00 - $95.00 per hour. However, if posing in a group, it could be less expensive. Not really sure, because I did it one on one.
I had my routine already in mind that I'd already been practicing. So meeting with one coach for the first time, she gave me a few pointers. With that said, choose your coach wisely. They don't have to believe in you,.....you do!
Sidebar: I said I would be authentic, so I must share my posing experience with one particular coach. I'm not going to give names or too much details, because I told myself I wouldn't speak on "that" session again. My experience wasn't good at all. I believe because I only purchase one session with this coach, she wasn't interested in helping me. Her attitude was horrible and she was very critical. I was really getting annoyed, angry and forcing myself to get thru the hour. I had gotten to the point, that 35 minutes into the session "I asked how much longer do I have?" I also began taking off my shoes. I wasn't upset about the money I'd thrown away, so much as that I'd wasted my valuable time. I could have been doing cardio or something. Needless to say I would not use her services or speak of her again.
I learned latter that most coaches want you to start posing with them 8 weeks out, perhaps meeting once a week until the show. Well I'd been practicing for about 12-16 weeks prior with another coaching advisor that advise me very well. I learned a lot from everyone that I interacted whether it was good, bad or ugly.
Some people i learn that I may want to continue doing business with, then others I may not.
Then you have Supplements, which are not cheap. Depending upon how many times a day you consume and the brand you choose will determine how many times you need to replace, can run from $160.00 to about $300.00 a month. There's also the deep tissue body sculpting massages. These massages aide in helping muscles "pop". When I say pop I mean some areas of my body may need extra manipulation to enhance the work that I'd already done over the past months. So my Massage therapist got into to areas and really stirred up the blood to continue to push my muscles to make them become even more separated. It's was an instant gratification. I was able to get a massage every week until the week of the show. I choose an hour massage because it was rewarding, yet very intense. But I loved the way I look. I could immediately see the sculpting results. It's worth the $60.00 to $85.00 and hour. Pedicure and nails $25.00 are also necessary, just because they feel good. I hadn't had nails in years and decided I would go all the way. It's not a necessary though. I also found a product at HEB just my own personal touch to Ginger and Clay detox body wash $6.00, my body three to four times a week. I'm talking about detoxing my skin to make it even more smooth and glowing. After using the detox foaming body wash two to three time, using a loafer $5.00 (or you can a brush) I then use a body scrub $5.00 (also from HEB), exfoliated twice, then I was done. Competing is definitely a luxury....with many small victories (that you shouldn't discount) along the way and huge rewards at the end.
You have to also consider your food. Choosing to eat as the lifestyle of a bodybuilder eats, is important. I wouldn't say eating is expensive, however it can be depending upon what you choose to eat and the type of person you are when it comes to food and having a variety. I'm kept my eating pretty simple. You're taking your food and low sodium ozarka water with you at all times. You can't take the risk of eating out and falling off your diet. I never liked miscalculating my time that I would be at work and didn't bring enough food. That's a huge deal, because you may not have the opportunity (or extra money) to stop and purchase something within your diet. My diet consisted of lots and lots of egg white, it's the purest form of protein so I ate it the most. I also ate chicken, fish (once a week), and beef (once a week). Earlier I talked about me choosing to have a Nutritionist/Coach on my team. He helped me to stay focused on the goal. Knowing I was being held accountable gave me the motivation to work that much harder.
The reason I choose to keep my Coach because as the journey got long and lengthy, he helped me to focused other things I had going on, which steered me to continue my journey with zeal, tenacity and motivation. He commended me for my efforts and applauded my consistent progress. He didn't know that I was feeling overwhelmed, however whenever I went to see him, the lesson for the day inspired me to keep going. Stay focused. I'm on the right track....it's all a part of the process. I regained my footing, remembered to be patient with myself, keep a great attitude and stay in the fight. I think I said this before, but it's not about the journey, it's about the lessons along the way!
There are ways to reduce your expenses. There are some competition apparel companies that will rent suits and many competitors sell their old suits. I heard some of them only wear their suits once, sell the old one and get them a new one. If you build a network, you’ll be able to find a suit at a great price, or wear one off the rack. If you have friends who are personal trainers or have nutrition or competition backgrounds, they can help you come up with a nutrition plan and evaluate your progress pictures. Progress pictures are pictures I took every two to three weeks to see my progress of my body. I was able see where I needed the most work, at that time. I also used the pictures to build my portfolio along my journey.
Distance coaching can be a great idea, too. I didn't have to do this but it is a viable option. You don’t need to go with the flashiest local coach whose girls show up at every competition in matching track suit jackets! You can also do your own tan, hair, and makeup, or seek out less expensive tanning options (like the stand-up tanning machines at many tanning salons; if you do multiple layers of these tans, you can get as dark as the more expensive competition tanning companies can get you). Because I'm already dark, I began early on using sensitive skin exfoliant on a daily basis, Hawaiian dark tanning oil and bronzer to keep my skin nourished, moisturized, supple and make sure I have a natural glow. I also used Tan Physics ($80.00 and tons of cocoa butter. I get a lot of compliments on my skin, when I wear my arms and legs out.
Sidebar: 12 weeks out from competing, I develop a cough that grew worse as the cold days came and went from day to day. I work teaching classes and training and still training for the competition. By the Saturday I've taught and trained my body 30 times. As my body fat was decreasing I stayed cold natured. I didn't best to stay dry and keep my core temperature regulated til I got home for the evening. The Houston weather showed me no mercy. I sweat a lot so that didn't make it any better. I would try to make sure I'd dry off and bundle up but somehow the cough only grew worse. On the Sunday morning, that following week, I woke up with huge knot on the front of throat (the size of a large egg). I was so upset and a bit scared at first. Then I thought about it and calmed down. I'd not been sick in years or had anything seriously wrong either.
I began some home remedies to see if I could do something to make it go down. I didn't know what it was, though I thought j could treat it. I started drinking lemon and honey water. I even took a teaspoon of honey raw (yuk, hate the stuff),'that didn't work. So by Tuesday morning it still had not budge I thought better go get it checked out. I ended up going to the emergency room, that took forever, for them to look at it, do an ultra sound, and order me to see my primary physician. By now it's was at 2am. I still had to go to work the next morning and teach. Because it was cold (February Winter months) for two weeks a wore a variety of scarves to cover my neck, so that I would be asked a thousand questions about my neck. I was able to schedule an appointment and get in to see my primary physician within the next five days. Seemed like it was he longest five days of my life. I prayed and keep a positive spirit.
I'm a pretty private person I only told 7 of my closest friends, only asking them to agree with me in prayer for my divine healing.
{Prayer text to family and friends: Good morning Friends and Warriors, over the last couple of days I've had a health challenge (with a cold and very sore throat), by Sunday morning I saw where the enemy is attacking my throat with some sort of (growth in that area.) Yesterday I decided it was necessary to go to the emergency room to get clarity on what's actually happening in my body. They weren't able to distinguish exactly what it is and referred me to a specialist. My request: though I truly understand the power of a praying woman (and man) and regardless of this obstacle, I know my covenant right as a believer. Please lift me up over the next seven day and agree for the manifested healing in my body. Thank you so much and I'll be praying for you as well. Love you and God bless!!! 🙏🏽}
Before it got in to see my primary physician, I was able to get an emergency appointment with my Nutrition/Coach to see if this was something he'd seen before? Perhaps, another up and coming bodybuilder had a similar situation and he could give me some insight. Well, unfortunately it was something he'd not seen. He too was concerned, yet sympathetic and compassionate. I was hopeful. He did have a few suggestions of some thyroid test that I could ask my physician to run to see if that would be my resolve. At first I was hesitant about asking, because I didn't know how she would respond. However, she did agree that it was okay to run those test along with several others. We ran each test twice over a period of six weeks, for accuracy. Yes I still had to work and train and follow my diet. I couldn't have a pity party, sick days or days off from life. About two weeks later the lump began to dissipate, my voice came back and all the test came back good. All my numbers, levels, glands and overall health came back great. There no evidence of anything in the test, blood work, X-rays, ct scan, ultra sound or mri of any abnormalities. Of course I was gratefully pleased. I still ended up taking antibiotics (I prefer natural) to treat the upper respiratory infection I'd developed over this period. All and all it was a scare but but I didn't get in my head about it.
Sunday, March 27, 2016
"Fabulous Fun Fit at 50" *My Journey "Becoming a Body Builder" by Angel'a M Jones
"Fabulous Fun Fit at 50"
*My Journey "Becoming a Body Builder" Part 1 by Angel'a M Jones
....just to give you some insight into my life and a little history or my past. I've been in fitness, as a Personal Trainer, Physical Exercise Therapist and Nutritionist for about 10 years. I've also been a certified Group Instructor since that time. Prior to going back to school, I travel around East Texas teaching on the importance of knowing the warning signs and risk factors associated with stroke. I really enjoyed the position. It really gave me a sense itself worth, knowing I was encouraging people that "their life matters". I was also encouraging news them to take charge of this health and be proactive in knowing what's going with their bodies. I do believe doctors and medicine is important, but we need to always pay attention to what's happening with us.
When my assignment changed, which totally caught me off guard, I knew exactly what I purposes to do with my life. I knew I was suppose to be in health and wellness. I was already pursuing my Bachelors of Administration at the time. So jumping in to complete my certification fell right in line. After getting started in fitness and training clients, teaching classes and workshops and doing nutritional consultations. I must say I knew I livinglifegolden. I began sculpting my own body, adding here, tweaking what I didn't like and improving what I did. I really got interested in nutrition when even though I was working out like crazy, my body was looking like I really wanted it to look. So I really got interested I nutrition and it was then I knew I had to make a lifestyle change.
I started to run and challenging my body in different ways. I taught lots of boot camps, (indoor and outdoors). The elements outside can be brutal. I did a few muddy buddy and quickly realized that wasn't for me. I then began to take up running. For the first race I ran a 5k, then another and another. After several of those I wanted more of a challenge so I then did several 10k's. I knew I was committed because I trained in the rain and he blazing hot sun. I even ran several raced while it was cold and rainy. I was thinking the whole time I was getting dressed, this is crazy. If I don't go know one would know. However, I would....and I'm not a quitter. Besides it was early and a friend came over really early in the morning to go with me. So, that wouldn't have been cool at all. For my last and final run I wanted to do something longer so I decided to run a 1/2 Marathon. So the beginning of 2013, I started training. I traveled to Las Vegas to run in the Rock and Roll Series. It was millions of people. No really there were so many people that as I was running I got distracted by watching them, I settled into my pace and ran it out. When I finally was done, I wasn't as sore as I thought I would be. My adrenaline was pumping and I was so dang proud of myself. All I wanted was something to eat and quick. Many of the things I've done were personal goals and though I didn't speak about them, I was pretty proud of myself.
Now I'm embarking upon a whole different garanimal. When I first started training as a bodybuilder I always thought I want this to be another journey that I do and be successful at doing. Now we all have our perspective on what we consider as successful. For me my success is to come Pro, then compete as Pro and perhaps pick up some endorsements along the way. It would also be wonderful to create a product/service that people in fitness and women bodybuilder and enjoy.
I'm entering my first Naturally Fit Bikini Bodybuilding Competition. Let talk first about "Positive Image." Competing can be a fantastic way to test your limits, build discipline, gain self control over eating and learn a lot about your body. There are lots of people who will be wondering what are you doing now to your body. However, becoming a bodybuilder is a commitment "not" to be taken lightly. I must tell you are now amongst an "Elite" group of women in the sports arena. Bodybuilding is "not" for everybody. There are lots of preconceived notions about becoming a woman bodybuilder. Though I'm a bodybuilder, first and foremost I'm still. "Classy Lady", who love weights and fitness. When you decide to start training for a competition, there are many things to take into consideration because many things in your life will change. This journey will challenge you to the core. You'll have to press thru, even when it's only you. As my story goes, you'll understand what I mean. It will be a challenging and require a longterm (possibly lifetime) commitment, and if you do it with total 100% commitment (by choosing the right people to mentor you), your life won’t ever be the same.
It could be a good, bad or even ugly experience you won't forget. Every person training for a bodybuilder, will have their own story. I'm only writing mine. I hoped, if this is a journey you choose to take, yours it won't be the latter. From dieting and eating on schedule, food preparation, choosing the right trainer, nutritionist (optional), posing mentor, acquiring show essentials, on to the day of the show. Let me walk you through my journey what are some important things you need to consider before competing.
First you want this to be an enjoyable journey experience. It doesn't mean you will not work hard, but it does mean that if you're going to do it, then why not have fun doing it. You can't get into this and say you'll do the workouts but the lifestyle change of eating, you can't do. I've been training now for 8 months (not because I needed to), but I had to decide which organization I wanted to compete in, which delayed my decision to enter after the beginning of the year. It was a business decision, not personal.
Make sure you’re in the right place before you take on competition preparation. You want to take in the necessary time needed to take of things in advance oppose to waking up rushing to get things done. Time management, healthy emotional and stable home environment is crucial. Though I'm a optimist info have to be real, there will obstacles you will have to overcome to reach your goals. But that's just comes with any endeavor you decide to do. For me this wasn't any different. I have to work extremely hard from the beginning. I found myself really reminding myself "my why" I decided to do this. As time went on, I learned a lot about myself. I can remember hearing a line from a sermon, weeks earlier, "don't discount the partial victories." So ladies (and gentlemen) whatever you set out to do, reward yourself along the way!
The first and most important thing to consider when deciding whether to take on the long, rigorous process is whether you’re in the right place emotionally and physically to prepare for a competition. Competition diets can range from 12 weeks (if you are already very lean and stage-ready all the time) to 20+ weeks. 20 weeks may not be not enough time to lose body fat in excess of 28%. During training you will gradually lose 3-5% a week, (depending upon your diet and the number of days you train). You want to monitor the amount of cardio you're doing in a daily basis, so that you don’t lose muscle mass along with it. You're working hard to put on muscle, you certain don't want to lose it by over training. I don't want you to think that you can't compete if you have an excess of 28% body-fat, because that's not true. You can compete. You also need to hire a trainer whose patient, knows how to train your body to prepare you for competition, safely. You also want to be patient with yourself to know it won't happen overnight. It could even be a year before you make it to the stage, just keep working. If it's your desire to become a Bodybuilder or a Fitness Athlete of any kind, I encourage you to work and work hard, to achieve your dream. Don't quit.
Also your trainer needs to be able to "not" impose what he/she think you should look like, but use his/her knowledge from experience or valuable wisdoms he learned along the way. It's your dream, he's a valuable resource to help you get there. Unless you're in pretty good shape, you really won't know what you will look like as far as what category to compete in until you're about 15% body-fat or when you start to see your body taking shape. At that point you can decide, with the guidance of your Trainer and/or Mentor(s) which category you should compete in.
Sidebar: I wasn't going to share this, but I'm being very venerable to tell about my full experience. The first 16 weeks into my training I noticed my Trainer wasn't as attentive as I thought he should be. Meaning, when I arrived for training he sent me to do warm up cardio, which was fine, but then when i came downstairs he was with a group of other trainer that work at the gym, "working out". There were other times I'd come in and "he was over in a corner asleep". I didn't wake him and began my workout or what I thought we would be training that day. He would wake up when I'm 30 minutes into and say "why didn't you wake me". I expressed that wasn't my responsibility. I could believe he audacity to be upset with me because I'm paying him and he was sleep. There were also derogatory comments he'd make that I didn't appreciate and didn't want to be around.
Yeah, you're probably saying why did you need a trainer. Bodybuilding wasn't my expertise, however I've learned a lot about the industry. I'm not saying I know it all, but I do know more. I was beginning to "not" enjoy the experience of "becoming a body builder". So I had pray about it and make a decision on what to do next. I went to a local nutrition store and got a recommendation. I called my current trainer (who happens to train at the same gym), we spoke, agreed upon what I wanted to do. Two days later I walked back into the same gym and we've been training every since. I wasn't upset, however I knew within my heart I could not continue that way. I realized also, it was better for me to develop a team of experts in order for me to achieve my goals.
Sidebar: "Its good to choose a Trainer who has trained Competitors or have competed his/herself. However if you choose a male, be sure he has proprietary information about what the judges are looking for."
The other side of “preparation" is slightly more complicated and less concrete. Competing can really a toll on you emotionally, mentally and spiritually, between the constant critiquing of your physique. As the weeks ahead approaches you're constantly monitory your body, watching to see if you're retaining water weight, making sure you're eating just enough protein and not too much carbohydrates. Then preparing to be judged on your physical attributes (you've chiseled on for months) that you think is flawless and beautiful. Now mentioning the exclusion of (almost) everything else, from social gatherings, desserts, fried foods, junk foods, office parties....you name it. Then the rigid diet you've been on has real effects on energy levels and mood at times. So I say it again, If you are not in a good place emotionally, mentally and spiritually and don’t have a very positive, self esteemed outlook on your life then you may want to work in you inwardly. Mature a bit more to build a happy place, comfortable relationship with your body and your own self image.
With that said I challenge you to continue workout and train, perhaps with a trainer/bodybuilding coach. There are so many benefits to exercising. I believe that the more you train, the more you like what you see, the better you will feel about your self...now you are well on your way. Competing may do you more harm than good, if you go into this looking for validation from others. So train, exercise, just do it. Give yourself time and body time. Remember while your training you're building muscle maturity, muscle conditioning, you're looking for assembly and you want to begin developing good muscle tone while going through the process. I said process because it's not going to happen over night. Competing can be an exhilarating, gratifying, and a rewarding experience.
My Life, of shopping, preparing and prepackaging my breakfast, lunch and dinner for 3-4 days at a time. Before I started preparing for my first competition, I had been eating pretty clean for years. I made a vow to myself when I became a Trainer that I didn't want to be a unhealthy over weight Trainer. I've challenged my body in many ways, now I'm embarking upon the journey of becoming a Pro-Builder. I figured I approaching the wonderful more adventurous "Fabulous Fun Fit Fifty." So why not challenge my body another way. Little did I know, it's not just a physical challenge. With everything in you, emotions, mental, social, physically and spiritually.
Sidebar: Emotionally you have to view eating differently. See it as a means of living, not living to eat and drink. Working with a good Nutritionist will help understand the dynamics of food and the anatomy of the body. You can't have an emotional relationship with food and alcohol. If you donut "could" present a problem when really working to get the core down. Mental fortitude is what it's takes to press on, even when you feel ostracized from family and friends. When you know you can't go out with friends because you have to be up at 5am for training and its legs day. That when you remember "my why". Socially, well you will gain new friends and perhaps some influential people who will help you to aspire to reach your goals and live your dream. Physically you will work out harder than you've ever worked out before. The process is putting on muscles and reducing your body fat. You can see this transformation as way of stripping all things, people, behaviors, set ways and situations that are not "critical" for your destiny in life. I can remember when I first started in he process, as I trained I first got a little thicker. I can remember people in my classes asking me "Angel", you're looking a little different in your body. It's was there way of saying "they see, what I see." So my response is the same today at 9.5% body-fat, as it was when I originally started my journey....."I'm reducing my body-fat and putting on muscle". There response was "are you doing it on purpose"? With that said you will be constantly explaining to people, as you learn, the dynamics of bodybuilding (and fitness) about the many changes (seen and unseen, during your transformations. Then Spiritually, you'll do a lot of soul searching. Things will happen, obstacles will challenge you, hurdles you'll jump and life will not, I repeat, will not always work out the way you plan. I'm being as open and the authentic me as I can be right now to let you know my journey. But, I had to spiritually dig deep to continue my journey. I mean really did deep within myself to gain some vertical spiritual footing for my life. Before even beginning my bodybuilding journey I found myself having to make a major adjustment in my living arrangement that ultimately affected my whole lifestyle. I thought it was something that would blow over in a matter of weeks, however it didn't. Weeks turned to months. I lived with a friend that put a huge damper on me staying on target to meet my goals. It was not always easy for me to financially meet all my obligations on a monthly basis, including paying for my much needed training, coaching and nutritional counseling. I understand that's it's a part of "my personal journey process." Achieving success for me means deep meditations and focus concentrations. Quitting wasn't an option. I can remember saying to another good friend that I have a lot on my plate. He said "maybe you should take some things off your plate." Wrong Response! I can hear my gut saying "maybe I should get a bigger plate". So I did. Doesn't means things got easier, I learned to prayerfully manage everything I have on my plate with Heavenly wisdom, guidance and strength. I learned through my walk with Christ, that people, situations, or circumstances can't dictate my destiny..."for I'm predestined for greatness"! You can be your "own" best friend or your "own" worse enemy.
Meeting with my Nutritionist/Coach to go over the logistics of what it would take for me to compete, create my meal plan and schedule our weigh-ins and body-fat measurements regimen. However, when meeting with him, I felt free. I could talk very candid with him about personal things I was dealing with emotionally. Though I was in a good place spiritually, physically, mentally and socially, there were times I was emotional in our sessions. He steered me and supported me, without judgement. It made it easier for me mentally. He went over what I could expect throughout the whole process which gave me some insight on what I could expect from my body as the journey progressed. It's an important decision to make as to whether or not to have a Nutritionist/Coach on your team.
However, though I was approaching 50, my body responded better than we'd anticipated, for the most parts. He also gave me lots of wisdom and vital information as time went to keep me focus. Some of the lessons really resonated with me and I still apply them today. Then we also discuss the organizations available for me to maximize my opportunities for competing to accelerate the process of me obtaining my personal fitness goals. I'm not competing just to show off my body for the sake of competing. I have major purpose and representation for many women who can "see" themselves in me as they read my story.
So, leaving, i'm now on my way to begin weighed and measuring all of my food. I'd begin preparing my food for 3-4 days on Saturday afternoons and Tuesday's or Wednesday's for the rest of the week. Yes, lots of sacrifices must be made. I starting prepping and pre-packaging my meals to carry several with me for eating at the allotted times. I'd trained my body to be a "fat burning machine", so if I was delayed eating any of my meal, my stomach would instantly start burning, within about 15 minutes, to let me know it was time to eat. So I did.
Because I choose to compete with the Naturally Fit Organization competition in 2016, I trained and prepared longer than most. Which was good for me. This is the benefit of learning about muscle maturity, muscle conditioning and equal muscle development. I learned more about the different organizations and was able to decide which one "I" wanted to do. I'd had the small liberty of eating some of the Holiday indulgences like sweet potato pie, cornbread dressing, lots of turkey breast, cranberry sauce etc., and on occasions a few walnuts. Though I didn't overly do it, my body didn't respond to it very well. So once was good enough for me. I was also able to have my cheat meals which was two beef fajita tacos, lots of fixing (except cheese) and chips and salsa. Yummy! I can remember when I learned I can now have cheat meals. Cheat meals are when you choose "a meal", usually at the end of the week, and indulge in a bit more than normal amount of carbs and a different type of protein. One you can have once a week, not the whole weekend. I remember my first cheat meal, though I was no longer bothered by not eating sugar, I'd began to look forward to those weekend meals. I didn't want to go over board and reverse all the work I'd done. But after the Holidays come and gone, January it's all business as usual. I have to be honest there are times when bored, I was anxious, I thought and felt like the processes I was "growing thru", seemed never ending. I must confess, it was moments like this, I wanted to snack. Not because I was hungry or wasn't enjoying my new lifestyle....just felt like I wanted something different or needed to do something different.
Sidebar: One thing for sure, this was something I was destined to do. Not just become a bodybuilder, but develop better eating habits that I could enjoy for the rest of my life. I've been eating this way now for at 9 months now. The same plan my Nutritionist/Coach gave me for the beginning. So it's definitely a habit I've conformed to and I have "no regrets". It works for me. I feel that if I'm eating this way, I'm 50 years of age, still burning body-fat, still putting on muscle and dripping pounds....to top it off, "my body is still functioning as God as ordained it to function" (meaning I still have my monthly cycle...every 28 days), yea it works for me. I'm healthy. Perhaps in the best shape of my life.
Upon starting to preparing for a competition (and especially toward the end of your time preparing) you will have to either reign in on those occasional indulgences that make Bodybuilding eating fit in with a robust social life. I'm pretty discipline so it wasn't hard for me to do. Many competitors begin feeling isolated from their non-athletic friends and family members
when they start avoiding birthday parties, office parties and the socials, restaurants and bars. That's was never a "must do" habit of mine. Nor did I "must have" a daily/nightly cocktail. I'm not knocking anyone who has those desire, it just wasn't mine.
Competition preparation can be very lonely, depending on the interests of your friends and loved ones. The hours you used to spend relaxing after work, or drinking a cup of coffee in the morning before heading out the door will be filled instead with hours in the gym. I still have my morning meditations, I just had to get up earlier. I trained most afternoon, so by the time I'm done, my body is fatigued. I'm thinking its 3:00pm and I certainly (sometimes) don't have time to take a nap. However, the results are fantastic. I feel amazing. I can wear anything I desire and don't have to be concerned about my physique. I can encourage you that your hard work will pay off, but there are sacrifices to be made. Whatever your fitness goals are....Don't Quit!!!!
*My Journey "Becoming a Body Builder" Part 1 by Angel'a M Jones
....just to give you some insight into my life and a little history or my past. I've been in fitness, as a Personal Trainer, Physical Exercise Therapist and Nutritionist for about 10 years. I've also been a certified Group Instructor since that time. Prior to going back to school, I travel around East Texas teaching on the importance of knowing the warning signs and risk factors associated with stroke. I really enjoyed the position. It really gave me a sense itself worth, knowing I was encouraging people that "their life matters". I was also encouraging news them to take charge of this health and be proactive in knowing what's going with their bodies. I do believe doctors and medicine is important, but we need to always pay attention to what's happening with us.
When my assignment changed, which totally caught me off guard, I knew exactly what I purposes to do with my life. I knew I was suppose to be in health and wellness. I was already pursuing my Bachelors of Administration at the time. So jumping in to complete my certification fell right in line. After getting started in fitness and training clients, teaching classes and workshops and doing nutritional consultations. I must say I knew I livinglifegolden. I began sculpting my own body, adding here, tweaking what I didn't like and improving what I did. I really got interested in nutrition when even though I was working out like crazy, my body was looking like I really wanted it to look. So I really got interested I nutrition and it was then I knew I had to make a lifestyle change.
I started to run and challenging my body in different ways. I taught lots of boot camps, (indoor and outdoors). The elements outside can be brutal. I did a few muddy buddy and quickly realized that wasn't for me. I then began to take up running. For the first race I ran a 5k, then another and another. After several of those I wanted more of a challenge so I then did several 10k's. I knew I was committed because I trained in the rain and he blazing hot sun. I even ran several raced while it was cold and rainy. I was thinking the whole time I was getting dressed, this is crazy. If I don't go know one would know. However, I would....and I'm not a quitter. Besides it was early and a friend came over really early in the morning to go with me. So, that wouldn't have been cool at all. For my last and final run I wanted to do something longer so I decided to run a 1/2 Marathon. So the beginning of 2013, I started training. I traveled to Las Vegas to run in the Rock and Roll Series. It was millions of people. No really there were so many people that as I was running I got distracted by watching them, I settled into my pace and ran it out. When I finally was done, I wasn't as sore as I thought I would be. My adrenaline was pumping and I was so dang proud of myself. All I wanted was something to eat and quick. Many of the things I've done were personal goals and though I didn't speak about them, I was pretty proud of myself.
Now I'm embarking upon a whole different garanimal. When I first started training as a bodybuilder I always thought I want this to be another journey that I do and be successful at doing. Now we all have our perspective on what we consider as successful. For me my success is to come Pro, then compete as Pro and perhaps pick up some endorsements along the way. It would also be wonderful to create a product/service that people in fitness and women bodybuilder and enjoy.
I'm entering my first Naturally Fit Bikini Bodybuilding Competition. Let talk first about "Positive Image." Competing can be a fantastic way to test your limits, build discipline, gain self control over eating and learn a lot about your body. There are lots of people who will be wondering what are you doing now to your body. However, becoming a bodybuilder is a commitment "not" to be taken lightly. I must tell you are now amongst an "Elite" group of women in the sports arena. Bodybuilding is "not" for everybody. There are lots of preconceived notions about becoming a woman bodybuilder. Though I'm a bodybuilder, first and foremost I'm still. "Classy Lady", who love weights and fitness. When you decide to start training for a competition, there are many things to take into consideration because many things in your life will change. This journey will challenge you to the core. You'll have to press thru, even when it's only you. As my story goes, you'll understand what I mean. It will be a challenging and require a longterm (possibly lifetime) commitment, and if you do it with total 100% commitment (by choosing the right people to mentor you), your life won’t ever be the same.
It could be a good, bad or even ugly experience you won't forget. Every person training for a bodybuilder, will have their own story. I'm only writing mine. I hoped, if this is a journey you choose to take, yours it won't be the latter. From dieting and eating on schedule, food preparation, choosing the right trainer, nutritionist (optional), posing mentor, acquiring show essentials, on to the day of the show. Let me walk you through my journey what are some important things you need to consider before competing.
First you want this to be an enjoyable journey experience. It doesn't mean you will not work hard, but it does mean that if you're going to do it, then why not have fun doing it. You can't get into this and say you'll do the workouts but the lifestyle change of eating, you can't do. I've been training now for 8 months (not because I needed to), but I had to decide which organization I wanted to compete in, which delayed my decision to enter after the beginning of the year. It was a business decision, not personal.
Make sure you’re in the right place before you take on competition preparation. You want to take in the necessary time needed to take of things in advance oppose to waking up rushing to get things done. Time management, healthy emotional and stable home environment is crucial. Though I'm a optimist info have to be real, there will obstacles you will have to overcome to reach your goals. But that's just comes with any endeavor you decide to do. For me this wasn't any different. I have to work extremely hard from the beginning. I found myself really reminding myself "my why" I decided to do this. As time went on, I learned a lot about myself. I can remember hearing a line from a sermon, weeks earlier, "don't discount the partial victories." So ladies (and gentlemen) whatever you set out to do, reward yourself along the way!
The first and most important thing to consider when deciding whether to take on the long, rigorous process is whether you’re in the right place emotionally and physically to prepare for a competition. Competition diets can range from 12 weeks (if you are already very lean and stage-ready all the time) to 20+ weeks. 20 weeks may not be not enough time to lose body fat in excess of 28%. During training you will gradually lose 3-5% a week, (depending upon your diet and the number of days you train). You want to monitor the amount of cardio you're doing in a daily basis, so that you don’t lose muscle mass along with it. You're working hard to put on muscle, you certain don't want to lose it by over training. I don't want you to think that you can't compete if you have an excess of 28% body-fat, because that's not true. You can compete. You also need to hire a trainer whose patient, knows how to train your body to prepare you for competition, safely. You also want to be patient with yourself to know it won't happen overnight. It could even be a year before you make it to the stage, just keep working. If it's your desire to become a Bodybuilder or a Fitness Athlete of any kind, I encourage you to work and work hard, to achieve your dream. Don't quit.
Also your trainer needs to be able to "not" impose what he/she think you should look like, but use his/her knowledge from experience or valuable wisdoms he learned along the way. It's your dream, he's a valuable resource to help you get there. Unless you're in pretty good shape, you really won't know what you will look like as far as what category to compete in until you're about 15% body-fat or when you start to see your body taking shape. At that point you can decide, with the guidance of your Trainer and/or Mentor(s) which category you should compete in.
Sidebar: I wasn't going to share this, but I'm being very venerable to tell about my full experience. The first 16 weeks into my training I noticed my Trainer wasn't as attentive as I thought he should be. Meaning, when I arrived for training he sent me to do warm up cardio, which was fine, but then when i came downstairs he was with a group of other trainer that work at the gym, "working out". There were other times I'd come in and "he was over in a corner asleep". I didn't wake him and began my workout or what I thought we would be training that day. He would wake up when I'm 30 minutes into and say "why didn't you wake me". I expressed that wasn't my responsibility. I could believe he audacity to be upset with me because I'm paying him and he was sleep. There were also derogatory comments he'd make that I didn't appreciate and didn't want to be around.
Yeah, you're probably saying why did you need a trainer. Bodybuilding wasn't my expertise, however I've learned a lot about the industry. I'm not saying I know it all, but I do know more. I was beginning to "not" enjoy the experience of "becoming a body builder". So I had pray about it and make a decision on what to do next. I went to a local nutrition store and got a recommendation. I called my current trainer (who happens to train at the same gym), we spoke, agreed upon what I wanted to do. Two days later I walked back into the same gym and we've been training every since. I wasn't upset, however I knew within my heart I could not continue that way. I realized also, it was better for me to develop a team of experts in order for me to achieve my goals.
Sidebar: "Its good to choose a Trainer who has trained Competitors or have competed his/herself. However if you choose a male, be sure he has proprietary information about what the judges are looking for."
The other side of “preparation" is slightly more complicated and less concrete. Competing can really a toll on you emotionally, mentally and spiritually, between the constant critiquing of your physique. As the weeks ahead approaches you're constantly monitory your body, watching to see if you're retaining water weight, making sure you're eating just enough protein and not too much carbohydrates. Then preparing to be judged on your physical attributes (you've chiseled on for months) that you think is flawless and beautiful. Now mentioning the exclusion of (almost) everything else, from social gatherings, desserts, fried foods, junk foods, office parties....you name it. Then the rigid diet you've been on has real effects on energy levels and mood at times. So I say it again, If you are not in a good place emotionally, mentally and spiritually and don’t have a very positive, self esteemed outlook on your life then you may want to work in you inwardly. Mature a bit more to build a happy place, comfortable relationship with your body and your own self image.
With that said I challenge you to continue workout and train, perhaps with a trainer/bodybuilding coach. There are so many benefits to exercising. I believe that the more you train, the more you like what you see, the better you will feel about your self...now you are well on your way. Competing may do you more harm than good, if you go into this looking for validation from others. So train, exercise, just do it. Give yourself time and body time. Remember while your training you're building muscle maturity, muscle conditioning, you're looking for assembly and you want to begin developing good muscle tone while going through the process. I said process because it's not going to happen over night. Competing can be an exhilarating, gratifying, and a rewarding experience.
My Life, of shopping, preparing and prepackaging my breakfast, lunch and dinner for 3-4 days at a time. Before I started preparing for my first competition, I had been eating pretty clean for years. I made a vow to myself when I became a Trainer that I didn't want to be a unhealthy over weight Trainer. I've challenged my body in many ways, now I'm embarking upon the journey of becoming a Pro-Builder. I figured I approaching the wonderful more adventurous "Fabulous Fun Fit Fifty." So why not challenge my body another way. Little did I know, it's not just a physical challenge. With everything in you, emotions, mental, social, physically and spiritually.
Sidebar: Emotionally you have to view eating differently. See it as a means of living, not living to eat and drink. Working with a good Nutritionist will help understand the dynamics of food and the anatomy of the body. You can't have an emotional relationship with food and alcohol. If you donut "could" present a problem when really working to get the core down. Mental fortitude is what it's takes to press on, even when you feel ostracized from family and friends. When you know you can't go out with friends because you have to be up at 5am for training and its legs day. That when you remember "my why". Socially, well you will gain new friends and perhaps some influential people who will help you to aspire to reach your goals and live your dream. Physically you will work out harder than you've ever worked out before. The process is putting on muscles and reducing your body fat. You can see this transformation as way of stripping all things, people, behaviors, set ways and situations that are not "critical" for your destiny in life. I can remember when I first started in he process, as I trained I first got a little thicker. I can remember people in my classes asking me "Angel", you're looking a little different in your body. It's was there way of saying "they see, what I see." So my response is the same today at 9.5% body-fat, as it was when I originally started my journey....."I'm reducing my body-fat and putting on muscle". There response was "are you doing it on purpose"? With that said you will be constantly explaining to people, as you learn, the dynamics of bodybuilding (and fitness) about the many changes (seen and unseen, during your transformations. Then Spiritually, you'll do a lot of soul searching. Things will happen, obstacles will challenge you, hurdles you'll jump and life will not, I repeat, will not always work out the way you plan. I'm being as open and the authentic me as I can be right now to let you know my journey. But, I had to spiritually dig deep to continue my journey. I mean really did deep within myself to gain some vertical spiritual footing for my life. Before even beginning my bodybuilding journey I found myself having to make a major adjustment in my living arrangement that ultimately affected my whole lifestyle. I thought it was something that would blow over in a matter of weeks, however it didn't. Weeks turned to months. I lived with a friend that put a huge damper on me staying on target to meet my goals. It was not always easy for me to financially meet all my obligations on a monthly basis, including paying for my much needed training, coaching and nutritional counseling. I understand that's it's a part of "my personal journey process." Achieving success for me means deep meditations and focus concentrations. Quitting wasn't an option. I can remember saying to another good friend that I have a lot on my plate. He said "maybe you should take some things off your plate." Wrong Response! I can hear my gut saying "maybe I should get a bigger plate". So I did. Doesn't means things got easier, I learned to prayerfully manage everything I have on my plate with Heavenly wisdom, guidance and strength. I learned through my walk with Christ, that people, situations, or circumstances can't dictate my destiny..."for I'm predestined for greatness"! You can be your "own" best friend or your "own" worse enemy.
Meeting with my Nutritionist/Coach to go over the logistics of what it would take for me to compete, create my meal plan and schedule our weigh-ins and body-fat measurements regimen. However, when meeting with him, I felt free. I could talk very candid with him about personal things I was dealing with emotionally. Though I was in a good place spiritually, physically, mentally and socially, there were times I was emotional in our sessions. He steered me and supported me, without judgement. It made it easier for me mentally. He went over what I could expect throughout the whole process which gave me some insight on what I could expect from my body as the journey progressed. It's an important decision to make as to whether or not to have a Nutritionist/Coach on your team.
However, though I was approaching 50, my body responded better than we'd anticipated, for the most parts. He also gave me lots of wisdom and vital information as time went to keep me focus. Some of the lessons really resonated with me and I still apply them today. Then we also discuss the organizations available for me to maximize my opportunities for competing to accelerate the process of me obtaining my personal fitness goals. I'm not competing just to show off my body for the sake of competing. I have major purpose and representation for many women who can "see" themselves in me as they read my story.
So, leaving, i'm now on my way to begin weighed and measuring all of my food. I'd begin preparing my food for 3-4 days on Saturday afternoons and Tuesday's or Wednesday's for the rest of the week. Yes, lots of sacrifices must be made. I starting prepping and pre-packaging my meals to carry several with me for eating at the allotted times. I'd trained my body to be a "fat burning machine", so if I was delayed eating any of my meal, my stomach would instantly start burning, within about 15 minutes, to let me know it was time to eat. So I did.
Because I choose to compete with the Naturally Fit Organization competition in 2016, I trained and prepared longer than most. Which was good for me. This is the benefit of learning about muscle maturity, muscle conditioning and equal muscle development. I learned more about the different organizations and was able to decide which one "I" wanted to do. I'd had the small liberty of eating some of the Holiday indulgences like sweet potato pie, cornbread dressing, lots of turkey breast, cranberry sauce etc., and on occasions a few walnuts. Though I didn't overly do it, my body didn't respond to it very well. So once was good enough for me. I was also able to have my cheat meals which was two beef fajita tacos, lots of fixing (except cheese) and chips and salsa. Yummy! I can remember when I learned I can now have cheat meals. Cheat meals are when you choose "a meal", usually at the end of the week, and indulge in a bit more than normal amount of carbs and a different type of protein. One you can have once a week, not the whole weekend. I remember my first cheat meal, though I was no longer bothered by not eating sugar, I'd began to look forward to those weekend meals. I didn't want to go over board and reverse all the work I'd done. But after the Holidays come and gone, January it's all business as usual. I have to be honest there are times when bored, I was anxious, I thought and felt like the processes I was "growing thru", seemed never ending. I must confess, it was moments like this, I wanted to snack. Not because I was hungry or wasn't enjoying my new lifestyle....just felt like I wanted something different or needed to do something different.
Sidebar: One thing for sure, this was something I was destined to do. Not just become a bodybuilder, but develop better eating habits that I could enjoy for the rest of my life. I've been eating this way now for at 9 months now. The same plan my Nutritionist/Coach gave me for the beginning. So it's definitely a habit I've conformed to and I have "no regrets". It works for me. I feel that if I'm eating this way, I'm 50 years of age, still burning body-fat, still putting on muscle and dripping pounds....to top it off, "my body is still functioning as God as ordained it to function" (meaning I still have my monthly cycle...every 28 days), yea it works for me. I'm healthy. Perhaps in the best shape of my life.
Upon starting to preparing for a competition (and especially toward the end of your time preparing) you will have to either reign in on those occasional indulgences that make Bodybuilding eating fit in with a robust social life. I'm pretty discipline so it wasn't hard for me to do. Many competitors begin feeling isolated from their non-athletic friends and family members
when they start avoiding birthday parties, office parties and the socials, restaurants and bars. That's was never a "must do" habit of mine. Nor did I "must have" a daily/nightly cocktail. I'm not knocking anyone who has those desire, it just wasn't mine.
Competition preparation can be very lonely, depending on the interests of your friends and loved ones. The hours you used to spend relaxing after work, or drinking a cup of coffee in the morning before heading out the door will be filled instead with hours in the gym. I still have my morning meditations, I just had to get up earlier. I trained most afternoon, so by the time I'm done, my body is fatigued. I'm thinking its 3:00pm and I certainly (sometimes) don't have time to take a nap. However, the results are fantastic. I feel amazing. I can wear anything I desire and don't have to be concerned about my physique. I can encourage you that your hard work will pay off, but there are sacrifices to be made. Whatever your fitness goals are....Don't Quit!!!!
Wednesday, February 10, 2016
Wait, Don't Give Up...There's More to Your Story
Wait, Don't Give Up...There's More to Your Story
"Making my way to the Top"
In life, nobody gives you anything, though it sounds like a cliche' it's still a reality. However there is one thing in this world that come with sacrifices, commitment, trust and dedication....besides Salvation and that's "winning". I used to think that I was facing so many challenges but as I grow and continue to grow and my life continues to evolve right before my eyes, I learned they're not challenges but "opportunities". I say opportunities because when faced with the many situations and circumstances on a daily basis, how you view them, will aide in how you respond or react to them. A question for you? How do you view your opportunities?
In the last five years my life has been a series of opportunities for me used as a piece of the puzzle (my life story) that fits purposely as part of my destiny. Yes every situation and circumstance that I've had to face in my lifetime is all apart of the puzzle. {Will talk more on "Pieces of the Puzzles Series"} later.
Regardless of the puzzles pieces I've been blessed. Now, as I continue my journey of "be"-coming a body builder there's so much that goes on behind the scene that you don't see. Every week meal planning, making sure I have several days meals prepared in case my schedule is thrown a curve ball, weekly work schedule, which for happens to be working as a fitness instructor for seniors, personal training clients, still managing my personal projects and personal life, life coach, My Baking business and blogging project.
Then there the days and nights that present to me many opportunities for stress, anxiety, frustrations, doubt, fear, anger and depression. (All the things we were not designed to do. Also, all these things are strategic moves for me to lose faith, give up, give in, stop dreaming and no loner believe. Many times my mind attempted to wonder, how was I going to pay for all the many things on my plate. Especially since they were all moving at the same time.
You didn't see all the times the elevators (you call them haters), which masquerade around as friends, attempting to assassinate my character and sabotage my dreams. You didn't see all the people who smiled in my face and while trying to sabotage me behind my back and began to turn against me because this journey takes me down a different road. Which means that somethings I choose not to do or places I choose not to frequent. The beauty of it is "it's okay." I'm comfortable in my decision to walk this process "as a winner", even if I have to walk alone. However the beauty of it is, I do know the people who genuinely love and appreciate me who I am and my determination to do all I've been created to do, without justification.
You only see the fruit of a made up mind, a liberated yet obedient and relentless spirit.
My message to you is a simple one, don't "ever" quit. You're much stronger than you think.
It won't kill you, it will only make you wiser and stronger. But you've got to respect "the process". This is your season, seize the moment, take every day as "this is the day for my new beginning". Live it like "it's already done." What God started in you, with a will to believe, you can finish it. What God has blessed cannot be cursed - Know that He has blessed you. Selah...
Love you madly, most sincerely I do!
Sunday, January 3, 2016
My Next Chapter
Embracing the Now, while trusting God......as the rest unfold...
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you" says the Lord. "They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. AMPV
There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them. —DENIS WAITLEY”
In my blog I will Journal, bits and pieces of the past (only to show how it has shaped my future), and share with you my focus on the "Next Chapter"not my life. With this Journey I will be as authentic as I possible can. I understand there may be some persecution, ridicule and backlash, but this is something I need to do for myself and for someone else who wants to develop the strength to live their "life out loud" without apology. Who knows maybe someone may get free in the process.
My Life....“It is not the story of success I planned.”
So much to share as my life continues to unfold. Some of the changes you will see are forced, simply because my foundation (what "I" presumed was a solid foundation) wasn't so stable anymore. In the latter part of 2012 I asked God to teach me how to walk by faith and not by sight. As we take this journey together, there are somethings i have no explanations for and I'm still trusting God for the answers and resolve. I've learned I can't always justify why in in a situation or facing a circumstance because it is a supernatural (spiritual) process. Somethings are intellectually explainable. Everyday as my journey move forward with me seemingly like I'm going through the motions, I'm actually "living" the purposeful life God intended. I say that because I can't take the risk of me going off on some tangent or taking a risk that could possible set me back. So I trust God totally for guidance and direction.
With this (faith walk) became the first phase of "life detox." We've all heard of detoxing the body (while eliminating certain foods and drinks from your daily diet, and only consuming curtain types of fruits and vegetables, for a certain period of time). During this time you're doing a specific cleanse for a specific reason(s). I now was detoxing my life (from the things, people, systems, situations and circumstances) of this world that were not conducive for my destiny in life. The systems of this world are meant to detain you spiritually while not allowing you serve God fully and be connected and total dependence to the systems. It gives us the independent allusion that we're truly living life serving God as our Master, but we're not. If you don't believe me, "ask The Heavenly Father to help you to walk by faith and not by sight (sense realm knowledge and reasoning and logical thinking).
With this detox like any other detoxes came withdrawals. I began to immediately experience night sweats, fear, frustrations, anxiety attics, emotional temper tantrums, thoughts of inferiority, doubt, lack, insufficiency, not enough, pain, hurts, disappointments, discouragements, setbacks and loss....and so many other negative emotions.
It was during the detox I learned "it's all a process." Everything God has promised us in life is not always released instantaneously, sometimes we have to go through "the process." Notice I said "go through".....because it's "not" my destination. Therefore, we should continue to hold on to the #promises of Gods words as we journey through this process. Our faith is in the #promises, not in ourselves.
At one point, I was having thoughts of doubt, just like an addict I actually said to God that I wanted my life back, but then I thought, no I don't. I've always took pretty good care of myself, but I always wanted more and desired to live better. Just so you know, it's nothing wrong with way of thinking. God wants us to have "the best". During the beginning of the journey in 2012 I was feeling down and shared with a very Dear friend about what was going on at that time. With a short period I had a "rest" from the transition during the journey. My friend asked "if I felt like I was getting back to the way thing were". She then proceeded to affirm was she'd just wanted to express what she was thinking "well, I feel like you are". "She meant it as a total compliment, but it really made me think and we had this great conversation where I was like, ‘You know what? I try really hard not to use that language, (getting my life back), because i'm not about going backward in life.’ If I didn't need to strengthen my faith, then I would never have received the nudge to do so. I've accepted the task of Writing My Next Chapter by "Embracing the now, while trusting God.....as the rest unfolds I am by no means trying to grasp onto anything from the past. “I’ve been really focused on not being ‘back’ to anything, but being the best version of myself right now," and moving forward. "My life is the sight of a miracle now. I don’t want to be pre-miracle.”
Also, as I stated earlier I will share some insight about my past. In order for me to truly be authentic about my future and #theNextChapter, I have to be open to some specific information. Now, my intentions are not to elaborate on the negative but to help you understand it's all apart of "the process". I am not living in the past.
I want to encourage you strongly to Embrace the now, whatever or wherever that my be....but don't stay there. You don't want to miss what God is doing "in the now" because you're stuck in the past or so focused on the future. "It's all apart of "#the process.
As we began to connect the dots there will come self discoveries. As I did, you will learn that you're stronger than you thought and things are really not as bad as they seem. Don't just go through the motions of "going through" the process, but grow through it. Consider this "now" as an opportunity to develop your character, get stronger and gain wisdom. Yes I called it an opportunity instead of challenge because it's just that.
Because there's room for growth. In the coming months were going to talk about how regardless of what piece of the puzzle life deals you, it will all work out for your good. You are a winner. You were born to win. The opportunities are a setup, but stay focused. .
Embracing the Now, while trusting God......as the rest unfold...
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you" says the Lord. "They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. AMPV
There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them. —DENIS WAITLEY”
In my blog I will Journal, bits and pieces of the past (only to show how it has shaped my future), and share with you my focus on the "Next Chapter"not my life. With this Journey I will be as authentic as I possible can. I understand there may be some persecution, ridicule and backlash, but this is something I need to do for myself and for someone else who wants to develop the strength to live their "life out loud" without apology. Who knows maybe someone may get free in the process.
My Life....“It is not the story of success I planned.”
So much to share as my life continues to unfold. Some of the changes you will see are forced, simply because my foundation (what "I" presumed was a solid foundation) wasn't so stable anymore. In the latter part of 2012 I asked God to teach me how to walk by faith and not by sight. As we take this journey together, there are somethings i have no explanations for and I'm still trusting God for the answers and resolve. I've learned I can't always justify why in in a situation or facing a circumstance because it is a supernatural (spiritual) process. Somethings are intellectually explainable. Everyday as my journey move forward with me seemingly like I'm going through the motions, I'm actually "living" the purposeful life God intended. I say that because I can't take the risk of me going off on some tangent or taking a risk that could possible set me back. So I trust God totally for guidance and direction.
With this (faith walk) became the first phase of "life detox." We've all heard of detoxing the body (while eliminating certain foods and drinks from your daily diet, and only consuming curtain types of fruits and vegetables, for a certain period of time). During this time you're doing a specific cleanse for a specific reason(s). I now was detoxing my life (from the things, people, systems, situations and circumstances) of this world that were not conducive for my destiny in life. The systems of this world are meant to detain you spiritually while not allowing you serve God fully and be connected and total dependence to the systems. It gives us the independent allusion that we're truly living life serving God as our Master, but we're not. If you don't believe me, "ask The Heavenly Father to help you to walk by faith and not by sight (sense realm knowledge and reasoning and logical thinking).
With this detox like any other detoxes came withdrawals. I began to immediately experience night sweats, fear, frustrations, anxiety attics, emotional temper tantrums, thoughts of inferiority, doubt, lack, insufficiency, not enough, pain, hurts, disappointments, discouragements, setbacks and loss....and so many other negative emotions.
It was during the detox I learned "it's all a process." Everything God has promised us in life is not always released instantaneously, sometimes we have to go through "the process." Notice I said "go through".....because it's "not" my destination. Therefore, we should continue to hold on to the #promises of Gods words as we journey through this process. Our faith is in the #promises, not in ourselves.
At one point, I was having thoughts of doubt, just like an addict I actually said to God that I wanted my life back, but then I thought, no I don't. I've always took pretty good care of myself, but I always wanted more and desired to live better. Just so you know, it's nothing wrong with way of thinking. God wants us to have "the best". During the beginning of the journey in 2012 I was feeling down and shared with a very Dear friend about what was going on at that time. With a short period I had a "rest" from the transition during the journey. My friend asked "if I felt like I was getting back to the way thing were". She then proceeded to affirm was she'd just wanted to express what she was thinking "well, I feel like you are". "She meant it as a total compliment, but it really made me think and we had this great conversation where I was like, ‘You know what? I try really hard not to use that language, (getting my life back), because i'm not about going backward in life.’ If I didn't need to strengthen my faith, then I would never have received the nudge to do so. I've accepted the task of Writing My Next Chapter by "Embracing the now, while trusting God.....as the rest unfolds I am by no means trying to grasp onto anything from the past. “I’ve been really focused on not being ‘back’ to anything, but being the best version of myself right now," and moving forward. "My life is the sight of a miracle now. I don’t want to be pre-miracle.”
Also, as I stated earlier I will share some insight about my past. In order for me to truly be authentic about my future and #theNextChapter, I have to be open to some specific information. Now, my intentions are not to elaborate on the negative but to help you understand it's all apart of "the process". I am not living in the past.
I want to encourage you strongly to Embrace the now, whatever or wherever that my be....but don't stay there. You don't want to miss what God is doing "in the now" because you're stuck in the past or so focused on the future. "It's all apart of "#the process.
As we began to connect the dots there will come self discoveries. As I did, you will learn that you're stronger than you thought and things are really not as bad as they seem. Don't just go through the motions of "going through" the process, but grow through it. Consider this "now" as an opportunity to develop your character, get stronger and gain wisdom. Yes I called it an opportunity instead of challenge because it's just that.
Because there's room for growth. In the coming months were going to talk about how regardless of what piece of the puzzle life deals you, it will all work out for your good. You are a winner. You were born to win. The opportunities are a setup, but stay focused. .
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